If you're landing on this post it's probably pretty likely that the #1 thing you want right now – more than anything - is to know where to find a REAL man. That's no big surprise. I hear this question a lot (in various forms) - they often go something like this: Where do you go to meet REAL men? Where can I meet a REAL man that is in my age group (I'm 52)? Where can I meet REAL men when I don't like going to clubs or bars? How do I meet REAL men if I simply don't want to go … [Read more...]
Dear Colette, In school I was always the popular one. I wound up having a child at 22. Now I'm 27 and I've been single for 4 years. I use to be carefree and fun loving and I had so much faith that I would eventually meet the right person. Now it seems that all of my self confidence has dissipated. I have a great career and a healthy son and I think I'm smart and funny, but when it comes to meeting guys I freeze up and can't speak to them anymore. If I do speak to them I end up sabotaging … [Read more...]
I’ve got a few questions for you about your love life that will show you a completely different way to approach men, dating, and love. Ready? Go. Q: How many times in your life have you been in love? A: Two? Three? Four? Q: How many of those relationships lasted? A: If you’re single, the answer is zero. Q: What percent of men are cute, successful, smart, kind, funny, compatible AND emotionally available for a long-term relationship? A: According to most women, about … [Read more...]
Jennifer Aniston. Beautiful. Smart. Funny. A great actress. All around fabulous! Not to mention coveted by most men on the planet. So why then is she forever getting dumped by the men she gets involved with? It's a darn mystery isn't it? A mystery that all too many women live every day, without any definitive answers. And it's confusing as hell. For example, I have this really great friend, let's call her Joy. And she's just like Jennifer - totally fabulous. Men contact her on … [Read more...]
Dear Colette, Within the last month, my live-in boyfriend of 2 1/2 years moved out and I have to say that it is the best thing that could have happened to me. My life has taken an impressive turn for the better and I am on my way again to being the person I use to be; I would even venture to say a new and improved model of my former self. In recent years, I have learned that everything truly does happen for a reason and that everything has a valuable lesson to teach you. I have realized my … [Read more...]
You say "jump." He says "How high." If a guy really loves you, that's how the conversation would go, right? Ummm... Not quite.Not if you are relationship equals, that is. Any self-respecting guy would tell you to take a hike if you were asking him to so something he doesn't want to do. Or at least he'd be saying "we need to talk" to come to some sort of mutually agreeable solution. If you've been expecting your guy to do as you say and it hasn't been working out for you, check out … [Read more...]
Most men and women will agree that falling in love is easy... But keeping love alive... Well, that can be the tricky part. So why is it that we have such a difficult time staying in love? In my experience, arguments often arise because women and men innocently refuse to accept the differences that exist between them. Women want men to be more emotionally available. They want to see their partner express his feelings about the relationship, or spend time talking about life goals and … [Read more...]
As adults, most of us arrive at our relationships with a backlog of previous hurts, fears, and insecurities. We mistakenly blame our relationship and our partner as the cause of our hurt, when in fact, our relationships are what give us the opportunity to clear up the pains of our past. However, many people get to a point in life where they reject relationships entirely. They decide it is less painful to feel lonely, than it is to suffer the potential heart break of a relationship gone … [Read more...]
Well, the short answer to this question is: Yes, if you want your relationship to last beyond the lustful, rose-colored-glasses phase, which usually lasts 6-18 months. Here's why: Keeping love alive in the first six to eighteen months of any new relationship is easy. This period is called The Romance Stage of Love and it is what many movies and songs are written about. It is a wonderful time, full of positive energy and excitement. Everything the other person does is magic. … [Read more...]
I thought it was time for a quick video to remind all of my female readers and clients about the art of mirroring when meeting a new man. So often men will give us women the impression they like us, they will even so much as say so: "I really like you, we should get together sometime." And then we go off all excited because this guy that we think is pretty amazing, likes us back! But then... He doesn't call, he doesn't email, he doesn't text... It's like he falls … [Read more...]
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