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Comment on How To Let Go of Your Ex – Why It’s So Hard to Let Go & What You Can Do About It by Ali thanawalla

Ali thanawalla — Sat, 19 May 2012 00:41:00 +0000

Well,

Comment on How To Let Go of Your Ex – Why It’s So Hard to Let Go & What You Can Do About It by Ali thanawalla

Ali thanawalla — Sat, 19 May 2012 00:41:00 +0000

Well,

Comment on How To Let Go of Your Ex – Why It’s So Hard to Let Go & What You Can Do About It by Colette

Colette — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:38:00 +0000

Words of pure wisdom Jawkk :)

Comment on How To Let Go of Your Ex – Why It’s So Hard to Let Go & What You Can Do About It by Colette

Colette — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:36:00 +0000

Hi Ali, I totally hear you. It is a massive blow to the ego and to the concept of love itself when someone who claims to love you, can stoop so low, and hurt you like that. Kind of makes you question not only yourself and your worth as a lover, but also in the meaning of love itself.

Although I don’t know your whole situation, when you say “maybe it’s harder because she was the first girl in my life who ever made me feel like i really meant something to her” I wonder:

How much of that feeling did YOU have to do with? What I mean is, although you say that “she made you feel like you really meant something” the reality is, only you can make you feel meaningful about anything.

The outside world is merely a reflection of what you think about it.

When you felt like you meant something to her, it’s because deep down you realized that you COULD mean something to someone (whether you were consciously aware of it or not). She just happened to be the one in the outside world reflecting this discovery back to you.

And now that it’s come to an end, and she has done the worst thing she could possibly do with your new found discovery of self-meaning, the way I would choose to look at it, if it were me in your situation is this:

This is a test. It’s a test of how deeply you believe in your worth and your meaning.

This is a lesson in self-worth. It’s a lesson that I believe you’ve aced with flying colors, because you can give yourself credit for risking the possibility of getting hurt, to allow yourself to really be seen by another person. You can give yourself credit for being open and honest. You can give yourself credit for allowing another person to find you as meaningful as deep down, you know yourself to be (whether you consciously accept your worth or not).

I know it’s hard to find the gift in this, because it seems SO secondary to a life of love with the one person you could see yourself happily in love with, for life.

But remember, the mind is the most powerful instrument on earth. It has the power to make or break you.

Which do you choose?

Comment on How To Let Go of Your Ex – Why It’s So Hard to Let Go & What You Can Do About It by Ali thanawalla

Ali thanawalla — Fri, 18 May 2012 18:45:00 +0000

I read your article and it is amazing how you describe the process of letting go and the concept of forgiveness. My brain accepts your theories a 100% . But i am still angry. After 2 years i am still obsessing about how she could have cheated on me after being so, so close to me. It is destroying my life and that frustrates me. Maybe its harder because she was the first girl in my life who ever made me feel like i really meant something to her. Now any girl i meet is just not good enough, even though they are perfectly nice. I am sick to the bone because of all this anger im feeling. I cant figure how to let it go…

Comment on What To Do When He Won’t Pop The Question by Colette

Colette — Tue, 08 May 2012 18:24:00 +0000

Hi Natasha! Thanks for your note… Let me ask you.. Are you saying that you are at the point that you are ready to let the need to be married go? Or that you are ready to let the relationship go?

7 years is A LOT of time invested in a relationship (and one with twice as many ups – makes me feel sad that you’d be ready to let it all go).

If you had to pick one thought that runs through your mind constantly when you think about the fact that your boyfriend won’t pop the question, what is it?

This is a big issue for most women, and it always had very deep roots. So, let’s start here and take it from there.

xo Colette

Comment on What To Do When He Won’t Pop The Question by Natasha Boldoe

Natasha Boldoe — Mon, 07 May 2012 02:19:00 +0000

I need help, i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 7 yrs. we have to kids together.and we have been thru alot of downs and twice as many ups. and ive been waiting for heim to ask me to marry him but he just donest want too. We talked about marriage plenty of times up every time we do he just acts like he doesnt hear me or just gets mad.Im just at a point that im really ready to just let it go but its hard because i has so much invested in my relationship im at a crossroad. please help me.

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Comment on What To Do When He Won’t Pop The Question by Benny Hart

Benny Hart — Wed, 02 May 2012 00:49:00 +0000

I would have to agree with Confused in Love, Colette. May I add that you don’t look 38, more like 33!
If your “boyfriend” has been married twice, was a bit of a player and also adds a comment that refers to his being afraid of cheating, I think you are right to show concern. I know a man who is on his fourth marriage, he has little or no assets. He has always been attracted to women 8-9 years younger than himself and left two of his wives for younger women. His current wife has told him she will be selling her house, he has no claim due to a pre nup, in two years and divorcing him. She will do it. My point is, is that these kind of men have difficulty in committment and it can be a sad ending for them when they are old.

Comment on How To Let Go of Your Ex – Why It’s So Hard to Let Go & What You Can Do About It by Jawkk

Jawkk — Tue, 01 May 2012 23:24:00 +0000

its amazing to feel the process of letting go..it will come when the time is right…what i did was take the time away and being away from my ex … that is what will make you learn the lesson…time…time.. alone….do it and you will see… u will come across many emotions but be strong and stay alone..it will due magic…good luck and i whish you the best because you will only become a better person,,,,that is if you really learn the lesson,,so be patience and explore the process… the process…. you see what i mean…it will be a process,,,u will need to go through the up and downn emotions to understand it….