I thought I’d share my philosophy and training with you in a little Q&A type format. Here goes:
What gives you the right (and ability) to do what you do?
Having successfully risen out of depression, eating disorders, and way too many crappy relationships to count, I have a deep-seated desire to help others do the same.
Always wanting to help, never wanting to harm I had to be sure that my therapy & coaching skills were well-researched and scientifically supported. Not just anecdotal heresay. That’s why I decided to go to graduate school and get a Master’s degree in psychology. And, to be sure I was up to speed on the most effective and practical dating & relationship coaching tools I also obtained a certification as a dating & relationship coach.
My credentials include:
- M.A. Psychology – Yorkville University
- Dating & Relationship Coach – Relationship Coaching Institute
What’s your approach to dating & relationship coaching?
My personal philosophy is that we find lasting love not only by setting goals and taking the required steps to achieve them (the result of coaching) we also have to know who we REALLY are, why we do the “stuff” that we do, and THEN de-bunk all of our sabotaging thinking (each the result of therapy). Because if you don’t know who you REALLY are or WHY you keep repeating the same old unhealthy patterns you’ll inevitably do a REALLY bad job of picking a *good* partner (once again). Your relationship will then come to an abrupt end, and when it does, your sabotaging thoughts will (of course) cause you to make the breakup all your fault, versus, something that just wasn’t supposed to be. And I’m sure you’ll agree… This just results in unnecessary heartache and unwanted pain.
My approach is to guide you away from the pain; make the good parts of dating & relationships better, and the hard parts a whole lot easier.
Why haven’t you written a book, hosted your own video series, or have all kinds of products for sale?
Ahhh, thank YOU for asking this one!
For my first two years in business as a therapist/coach I tried all SORTS of marketing ideas (like hosting a talk show called Love Talk, a live dating event called The Dating Lounge, writing e-books, creating membership programs, and so on). And while I got tons of great feedback about the value of these things, the energy required to sustain them, market them, and keep producing more of them was exhausting! Personally, I have always believed that there is SUCH great content available out there already (I used much of it myself to get where I am today). I would far rather refer to the books, videos and audios that others have created than try and generate them myself.
And the even-deeper-truth is, I’ve gotten clear about who I really am and more importantly what I value (both of which I’ll help you do – so that you don’t waist your precious energy chasing things (men) that aren’t *good* for you). For me, I adore working one-on-one with individual clients. So rather than “drain my well” by working by myself (while developing products), I am much happier feeding my soul by spending my valued time one-on-one with my client who needs a little more support than a book, video or audio can provide. All of these tools are great, and sometimes having someone to talk to about it all is even better.
I adore being your “someone to talk to.”
Why do you discount your prices? It makes me wonder if you’re any good at what you do.
Another great question! One that has a few answers:
- As an only child with no kids (just my sweetie Todd and our dog Rusty to nurture) I know that my way of feeling like an integral part of this world is by doing meaningful work. I also know that most people view dating & relationship coaching as a “nice-to-have” versus a necessity. Yet, evidence shows that the unhealthy parts of our upbringing are perpetuated into our love life and parenting if we don’t take a good look at where we’ve come from - and then consciously choose (everyday) to be and do something different. I want to make a difference in the world by helping put a stop to the unconscious patterns that cause crappy relationships and bad-habit parenting. I’m willing to do this at a reduced rate in order to reach more people and make a bigger impact.
- In my training as a therapist I worked at a non-profit counselling agency that worked on a sliding-fee scale. It feels incredible to give the gift of therapy and coaching to someone who is having a difficult time seeing their way out of pain, heartache and struggle. It is my heartfelt desire to make one-on-one dating & relationship coaching accessible to those who can’t otherwise afford it.
- One of my mentors, Aleya Dao, who is a *see-er* of subtle energy had a look into my energy fields and said “you aren’t in this for the money, you’re in it for the meaning.” And the moment I heard her say that a chord was struck in me where I felt directly connected to all that IS. I’m here to help. That’s why at the young age of twenty-two I decided I didn’t want kids. Because I wanted to be in service to our larger global family than just my own family unit. I know how much work it takes to be a great parent, and if I had kids I knew I wouldn’t have time to do what I came here to do – to help YOU. Although I value my time immensely, I discount my prices because I’m not “in it” for the money.
- Last but not least, my marketing coach Tad Hargrave (and one of my favorite people in the world) once said (and I’m paraphrasing) “What’s so wrong with the practitioner who wants to be in service more than she cares to get rich while doing it?” I love Tad because he’s a huge advocate of the pay-what-you-can movement, which makes services accessible to those who can only afford to pay what they can! I am so darn fortunate to have a life where I can afford to work for less doing what I love. And I’m happy to pay my good fortune – forward.
Sound like what you need?
Then come on in and find out a little more about me, fill out my online intake form, or contact me for one-on-one coaching.
Love is in the details,
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